Thursday, September 8, 2011

Sofia Talks: Knockers for the Troops (FB)

There has been so much controversy with this Facebook Page and I am not surprised. If you have not visited this site, then you wouldn't understand right away. The first time I heard of it was from a fellow blogger and I thought, you know I am going to check it out. There you will find a whole load of women's cleavage shots, I am not talking about butt crack and armpit cleavage I am talking about BOOBS!!! It seems appealing right, for the man in uniform, but women are making an uproar. Some women completely support the site by posting their own pics. Military wives also support the site by posting their pictures of their cleavage. Does this cross a line???
I made a video on my channel about making a site for the lonely wife back home and the female troops fighting the war, maybe a little eye candy for them?? I have been receiving mixed reviews and yes I am aware there are sites out there for the lonely Military Wife. I personally don't believe that Military Wives should be posting their cleavage shots or any other racy photos on a PUBLIC site. For one thing, your husband's superiors could be viewing the site. YOU represent the man in uniform you are married to, anything you do may be a reflection on your husband. I don't support men in uniform who think it's cool to post their wive's boob shots on a PUBLIC site where other troops can get a rise from. Fine, single soldiers need to have fun too. I get it. Boundaries are being crossed on this site. I am wondering what the Department of Defense thinks?? Is swinging in the military accepted?? Is it considered cheating?? Are sites like this allowed to be viewed when deployed??
I have many beliefs one is that I am responsible in protecting my marriage. I cannot sensor anything that is public on the internet, television or anywhere else. That is not my job. MY JOB is to talk about this in my relationship. Is it acceptable for me?? How would my husband feel if I showed my cleavage off? Some men are ok with showing off their wives and later they start wondering why phone numbers start appearing in their cell phones, why they are dating outside their relationship, or other suspicious behavior starts happening. Not all of this will happen, that isn't what I am saying, but what I am trying to say is that once you OPEN that door....other things can happen. Facebook doesn't lead to cheating. Your partner leads to cheating.
Women and men often believe that FACEBOOK, PORN, and other sites are to blame for infidelity. NOT TRUE. The person has the choice to participate or engage in cheating. Social media today causes a lot, it causes an OPPORTUNITY....but ultimately the person has the final decision.
My concern with this website is that underage people are not banned from the site, nor are they banned from posting pictures. This is a BIG DEAL. It becomes a legal issue.

My other concern with the site are the MARRIED members posting the pictures. My concerns go like this:
1. Perception is Everything and don't get mad if someone judges you.
2. This could affect you in the workplace...especially if you are trying to apply for a job on post.
3.The military is a SMALL world. Someone will know you posted.
4. Just know when you post a picture under your name, YOUR name will appear. YOUR picture can be saved on other computers and copied as many times as they want...do you want POSITIVE fame, or NEGATIVE fame? Do you want to be known as SGT. BLAH BLAH BLAH's wife who posted racy pictures on a website when attending Military functions??

I as a MILITARY SPOUSE would not engage in behavior that will negatively affect my husband in his career in any way. That is my belief. As a SPOUSE I will not engage in negative behavior that will affect my marriage in any negative way.

The video below was for entertainment and I am well aware that there are already sites out there for women.

1 comment:

  1. Amen.

    I did think it was funny, I told my husband about it and he laughed too. But, when it comes down to it, I %100 agree with you.

    You brought to light a lot of problems that I hadn't even considered! You are right, anyone can "like" the page and view those pictures. There's no telling how many children are looking at those pictures. Horrible!

    Great post :)